I still haven’t worked out where my gorgeous girl acquired her love of glitter, sparkle, and princesses. I can already predict the discussions that will be had during her teenage years about makeup, appropriate outfit choices and the fact that four hours really is too long to get ready. My parents never really had that problem with me. I was more of an over-sized hoodie and Doc Martin’s kind of girl. As a result of her love of all things Disney, we spend a lot of time watching films about princesses in our house.
There’s a scene in the modern adaptation of Cinderella that stood out for me. Ella’s mother is seriously ill and gives a final word of encouragement and advice to her daughter.
“Have courage and be kind. You have more kindness in your little finger than most people possess in their whole body. It has power, more than you know!”
As I look at the Proverbs 31 list of characteristics, the word kind catches my attention. This is a struggle for me today. I feel hurt by an ongoing situation that I have little control over. God has made it clear that my usual strategies of either becoming defensive or walking away are no longer an option. I am totally dependent on His strength to follow the wise words of Proverbs:
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”
It takes real courage to be kind and speak gentle words into a situation that causes us hurt. It takes courage to apply grace to the wounds that others have caused. We want to fight and defend, to micromanage and control. We’ll do anything to make the situation feel better and reach some kind of resolution. Alternatively, we resign ourselves to the belief that things won’t improve and accept things the way they are.
The truth is that God honours those who are obedient to Him. He blesses those who have the courage to speak kind words in the middle of a difficult situation. He promises that if we trust in Him and His goodness, then He will be there with us, in the middle of the difficulties we face.
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only be still.”
So, although I don’t usually live my life by the gospel according to Disney, today I choose to “have courage and be kind.”
Who’s with me?